We all have periods in our life that we would like to forget, memories that bring up all sorts of uncomfortable emotions such as anxiety, depression, guilt, self deprecation, you name it we’ve all felt it. Although its totally human to have these feelings we sometimes never realize that this bag of feelings is weighing us down and making life much more difficult than it needs to be. When we are dumped, fired or just plain shit on by the human race we can build up walls around us and project our negative beliefs back to the world. We all know at some deep level that not all people are horrible, but if we carry this emotional baggage into new relationships, careers and new adventures we enter the new experience with a twisted view and expect the same negative outcome as before. Starting a new relationship is one of the most exciting times in your life so why bring your old bag of crap along with you? Wouldn’t your house be a hard place to get through if you never threw anything away? Unless you love being surrounded by 1,000′s of useless trinkets and material things don’t read on! If you are like the rest of us you realize how crowed life can be with a subconscious mind that looks like a locker with 4 years worth of trash and old sandwiches.
People are very perceptive and can pick up negative thought patterns easier than you think, when you are on that date with someone and you feel insecure about (fill in the blank) you are sending out that message to the world that its true, your self esteem is obviously low. Most of the time that other person you are on the date with is just as insecure about something and has his own mental luggage rack that needs unpacking. When you are afraid to talk to someone at work because you perceive that they dislike you, think for a minute and ask yourself is it me or them? Most likely its your own belief system that gets in the way. Building up emotional walls prevents you from growing into a better person, its an old defense mechanism that you create over and over again to protect yourself from feeling vulnerable and exposed for who you really are.
Instead of building these emotional skyscrapers start to see these negative belief systems for what they really are (Imaginary Walls)! Make sure you realize that you have more control than you think you have in life. When I bring my past baggage into any new situation I always get burned! Although the process can take some time just know that its so worth it in the end, you’ll be astonished at how new situations seem less tense and much more comfortable. After awhile you will become the charismatic, relaxed, chilled out person in the room that people gravitate to. Social anxiety is a real condition but don’t be afraid to be you, all success stories start with the hero facing some challenge that they must overcome. Be the HERO!
1. Don’t let other peoples negative beliefs bring you down, most people including yourself have some twisted views on life and they aren’t always true, if you pick up their baggage as well your journey will be even harder. Look out for number 1!!
2. Once you become and expert at dropping unnecessary baggage and false beliefs you’ll have a ton of underused mental space, use that time to focus on yourself and fill yourself up with positive goals and thoughts.
3. (Alert) The emotional baggage will always be there and you must not forget the lessons you learned from the past experiences, instead of feeling bad about your past start to feel good about the new you that you are creating, also pass the gift on to the rest of the world, turn the old baggage into “Emotional Gift Baskets” to give to your family and friends! Share your experiences with them and teach them the lessons you have learned. Help end anxiety and depression for someone you know!!