The PPC Angler

Emotional Baggage

We all have periods in our life that we would like to forget, memories that bring up all sorts of uncomfortable emotions such as anxiety, depression, guilt, self deprecation, you name it we’ve all felt it. Although its totally human to have these feelings we sometimes never realize that this bag of feelings is weighing us down and making life much more difficult than it needs to be. When we are dumped, fired or just plain shit on by the human race we can build up walls around us and project our negative beliefs back to the world. We all know at some deep level that not all people are horrible, but if we carry this emotional baggage into new relationships, careers and new adventures we enter the new experience with a twisted view and expect the same negative outcome as before. Starting a new relationship is one of the most exciting times in your life so why bring your old bag of crap along with you? Wouldn’t your house be a hard place to get through if you never threw anything away? Unless you love being surrounded by 1,000′s of useless trinkets and material things don’t read on! If you are like the rest of us you realize how crowed life can be with a subconscious mind that looks like a locker with 4 years worth of trash and old sandwiches.

People are very perceptive and can pick up negative thought patterns easier than you think, when you are on that date with someone and you feel insecure about (fill in the blank) you are sending out that message to the world that its true, your self esteem is obviously low. Most of the time that other person you are on the date with is just as insecure about something and has his own mental luggage rack that needs unpacking. When you are afraid to talk to someone at work because you perceive that they dislike you, think for a minute and ask yourself is it me or them? Most likely its your own belief system that gets in the way. Building up emotional walls prevents you from growing into a better person, its an old defense mechanism that you create over and over again to protect yourself from feeling vulnerable and exposed for who you really are.

Instead of building these emotional skyscrapers start to see these negative belief systems for what they really are (Imaginary Walls)! Make sure you realize that you have more control than you think you have in life. When I bring my past baggage into any new situation I always get burned! Although the process can take some time just know that its so worth it in the end, you’ll be astonished at how new situations seem less tense and much more comfortable. After awhile you will become the charismatic, relaxed, chilled out person in the room that people gravitate to. Social anxiety is a real condition but don’t be afraid to be you, all success stories start with the hero facing some challenge that they must overcome. Be the HERO!

Hygiene Tips…..

1. Don’t let other peoples negative beliefs bring you down, most people including yourself have some twisted views on life and they aren’t always true, if you pick up their baggage as well your journey will be even harder. Look out for number 1!!

2. Once you become and expert at dropping unnecessary baggage and false beliefs you’ll have a ton of underused mental space, use that time to focus on yourself and fill yourself up with positive goals and thoughts.

3. (Alert) The emotional baggage will always be there and you must not forget the lessons you learned from the past experiences, instead of feeling bad about your past start to feel good about the new you that you are creating, also pass the gift on to the rest of the world, turn the old baggage into “Emotional Gift Baskets” to give to your family and friends! Share your experiences with them and teach them the lessons you have learned. Help end anxiety and depression for someone you know!!

Parenting Guy

So….. like a lot of you I watched the Facebook parenting guy on You Tube this week and had my own opinion of the situation.  I must admit at first I laughed my ass off at this guy thinking what a genius he was for publicly humiliating his teenage daughter.  Everyone at some point feels revenge is the best medicine when they are wronged and I bet you any amount of money that hundreds of parents across the country thought “Wow what a clever idea, why the hell didn’t I think of that”?

I give you one very big reason why most people didn’t think of this, its because they aren’t 15 year old girls themselves!!  I watched as this “Man” dismantled a young girls reputation and possibly her life. And for what? A chance at getting revenge for a stupid Facebook post that only her friends saw and most likely didn’t read or care about.  Teenagers go through emotional and psychical changes that can make decision making a challenge, anyone who is reading this and has been through it will understand.  What really bites my ass is that this guy took time out of his “busy” life to publicly humiliate a young girl, not to mention that fact that its his own daughter and blood.  Being a father of a young girl I could not in good conscious do this to my child and feel good about it.

When I was in High School I witnessed teenage drama and petty skirmishes on a daily basis.  Knowing that someday I would be free from this Teenage wasteland I tried not to get involved as much as my peers.  What this ass-munch did to his daughters life was way worse than anything his daughter could have said or done publicly on Facebook, Pintrest or any other social medium.  When you analyze it you can see that it was a knee jerk reaction to a hurt ego, an ego that should understand the trials and tribulations of being young, emotional and confused. I’m not saying what she did was right, I’m nearly stating the fact that it did not warrant this harsh a reaction from a loved one.

I don’t know what sort of parenting style this is or what his intention with this video was, but in my estimation it did much more harm than good to both himself and his daughter.  It starts to make sense while watching this video why this girl may have had such strong negative feeling towards her father. He is an immature douche bag with the mindset of a 15 year old girl.  No wonder why his daughter lashed out on Facebook against him, they are equal in their emotional IQ’s. I felt like I was watching the sequel to “Mean Girls”, and Lindsay Lohan was going to jump out from behind the camera and start firing too!!!

Note to self,

When your father carries a gun around and feels like its “ok” to film himself firing live rounds into a laptop, which he PAYED for and he put all this expensive software into, remember to ask the judge if your mom can have full custody.

Congratulations Facebook Parenting Guy you are the father of the year in this months Gun and Ammo magazine!

Parenting Fail

Have you ever tried to drive a mile while looking back in your rear-view mirror? Its pretty friggin tough if you ask me.  But everyday you see people living their lives while looking at the road behind them. All the mistakes you have made and all the regrets you have about your past can only be seen in the rear-view, its the human condition to look back and wish that things could have been different, well meaning friends and family member’s may even commiserate with you and tell you you have every right to feel bad about whatever situation it is you want to change.  I’m here to be that tough love douche bag that you avoid when talking about your “problems” so be fore warned! Stop living in the past.

We all have issues, bad relationships, bad jobs, been treated unfairly and crapped on to some degree in our lives.  Looking back while trying to move forward with your life is suicide, yes I said it SUICIDE. Look out for that mack truck or that deer that just jumped in front of your Honda Civic!!! Oops to late, you were looking back at the time Jenny Smith called you a whore in front of everyone at that frat party senior year.  Don’t hit that poor cat next door!!! Too late,  you were looking back on the time Julie Denson dumped you and left you with half the rent to pay while you were unemployed.  All these furry little animals are getting run over by your mental condition cantgetoveranything-itis… Poor kitty.

Depression is a condition of the mind caused by repetitive negative thinking and the inability to look at the bright side of any situation. All these so called problems could be seen as blessings in disguise.  Maybe because Jenny called you a whore you went to another party and met your current boyfriend, or maybe because Julie dumped your lazy ass you took a closer look at your life and found that you were self absorbed and lacked the fire to succeed, now you go to college and have a much better life.  People come and go in your life and situations mold our character over time, without pressure diamonds are not formed.  We get our mental fuel from the events and people that fill our emotional gas tank.  That is the stuff that should propel us to appreciate change and not dwell on past anxieties.  The road you are traveling on now is the correct one, just because it might be raining or too dark to see doesn’t mean that you should stop driving. When you are focused on the current direction you are driving you are 100% more likely to be alert and ready for any deer, moose or road block that comes your way.  Bambi will appreciate it.

Mental Hygiene Tips

1.  Stop looking back and complaining about some meaningless event in your life and appreciate the good that you have around you, some people are much worse off than you right now.

2.  All situations and events in our life present us with meaningful lessons, the Chinese symbol for crisis has one side that says danger and another that says opportunity, its what you do with your crisis that sets you apart from the rest. Take the opportunity and make it count.

3.  Don’t try to drive a straight open road all your life, take some risky turns and throw the GPS or map out the window some day when nothing is going right, who knows you might find something new and exciting or at least get the thrill of being lost and finding your own way out. That builds character.